Today, I cried when I heard a song on the radio. Not just any song, this song made me sad because the man singing was trying to tell people how he thought God was too busy to answer his prayer to bring someone back to him. Whether this person was alive or passed on he didn't clarify, but he totally missed the mark on what Gods position is in his life. The singer brought up many valid problems in his song that were probably way more important than his, but the problem that was missed was that there is not any problem too unimportant to God. Every prayer or problem no matter how little or big never goes unnoticed by our Father.
Like every good parent, God is never too busy to give time to you when you need it.
Never think that your not worth God's time just because the prayers you pray don't get answered.
God hears EVERY word and is catching every tear cried, but you also have to listen to him when he doesn't answer right away or at all, because his reason why are there you just have to pay attention.
Evaluate your prayers, think about and listen to what your praying for and figure out whether it's something you or someone else really needs, or if it's a prayer for convenience to make things the way you want things to be and not the way they need to be. Rephrase the prayer, maybe your not asking correctly, because God knows your heart and what it is that you need, but your mind has to meet the same criteria so that when your prayer is answered and it's not exactly the way you requested it, you can understand why and know he knows best.
Look at what your praying for also, to make sure that it is a reasonable request. Look to your heart, know that what your praying is what needs to happen or can in any possible way happen. It is true all things are possible with God, but the requests have to be within reason. He stopped raising people from the dead a long, long time ago.
You are important to him and every breathe you take he counts. Never be too humble to not ask for something you know you need and that he would be glad to give you, put others before yourself on earth, but it's o.k. to ask for yourself with him along with others.
You are important to GOD!!!
Friday, February 15, 2008
Wednesday, February 13, 2008
"Owning What is Not Yours"
Don't own anything that is not material.
To own something is to claim it as your own. First, however, you must make sure there is not already an owner. This is very important when it comes to material property, but even more important when you start to try and own non-material things such as issues, situations, problems, feelings, grieving, etc...
When someone you know or love has a problem, hurt, issue, bad feelings going on, it is not your responsibility to take these and carry them around as your own burdens. Only one has that right and he carries the owner of the burdens with him.
You run to the rescue to a loved one who has been hurt or lost something or someone, to bare their hurt with them or try to take it away, only to end up taking it on all yourself and you end up with more problems of your own while the owner is freed and moves on.
Let me tell you.... YOU CAN'T TAKE IT AWAY AND YOU CAN'T FIX IT!!!
One, it's not your job and two, it's not going to go away without the Lord and sometimes lots of time.
This is very dangerous and crushing to someone who sees them self as a "care giver" and can cause more damage to the person who "tried to help" then the person who had the loss or problem to begin with.
Face the fact also if it applies that it is o.k. if you weren't necessarily needed for that problem, and also look beyond your own family to be a proper care giver, it doesn't count if all you ever look after are husbands and children.
To be a "care giver" you have to be able to separate yourself when you are addressed with a problem that just isn't fixable but to just support and be there.
This unfortunately is the failure point that crushes the plans of the "care giver". Causing feelings of needlessness, rejection, leading to depression, stinky thinking, negative attitudes, and over compensation to try to do more for ones who don't necessarily need your services at the point in which the "care giver" needs a "give or help" fix.
A story:
A mother runs to the side of her daughter who has just become a widow, the mother wants so very badly to save her and take away her pain. Protect her from the hurt, to do what ever she needs for her. Yet in return the daughter is showing to be a strong person, raised and trained through life to be responsible and able to deal and cope with stressors that come her way. Although a very heart breaking situation the daughter barrels through like a champ. Grieving in her own way,(like everyone should), moving forward to respect the valor of her beloved and taking care of things the way he deserved, proud to have ever been married to such a fine man.
The daughter, surrounded by her mother and all the family she could ever need, she was able to relate to and become closer to her mother-in-law who not so long ago lost her love and now her son. They were two who could and should support each other merely due to common griefs.
Now, there leaves the daughters mother, still pushing through, wanting to take care of her and take away all the pain and hurt, not yet really dealing with the loss of a son-in-law she could have claimed as her own.
The good byes are said and tears are cried, now what?
The mother doing what I would do, moves in with the now single mom, moving their home closer to help the daughter with the baby and the homestead left a little emptier. All the while the mother is taking possession of all the grief, all the hurt and taking care of things. Instead of grieving and including herself in the group who was being taken care of and grieving together, she took ownership of the pain and sorrow leading her into a trap and a vicious cycle of highs and lows using this loss as a crutch in life to convince herself she can't do for herself, or creating ideas of negativity and rejection from others that are not true. Why? only she knows for sure, is it because she's led herself so far down this road that it's all she believes, or a cry for attention that just leads to more anger, frustration, hurt and rejected feelings when no one understands what's going on in her head.
The daughter has now moved forward, still grieving yet able to function and fulfill dreams and goals her husband would have been proud of. She's out blossoming from the love her husband gave her, giving and spreading his love for all people as far as she can.
This where the daughter has used her loss for the greater good, the mother burries herself so deep in a hole with all that she has taken on herself that when the daughter grows enough in strength to move out of the home and live close but not under the same roof, the mother doesn't know what to do but sit, ponder and stew. Dwelling deeper and deeper, creating thoughts of rejection, disappointment of others, failure, figuring the only thing left is being alone and scaring her self so much of things untrue. The next things to happen are deeper depressions, anxieties, new fears, paranoia, anger, frustration with everything normal, and the negativity starts owning her.
Dwelling daily on a loss that everyone around her has and is still dealing with and continuing to grieve, yet the difference is that the others did not let the grief and hurt take control of their lives, but celebrated the one lost just the way he would have wanted it. The others who lost did not own this grief as all their own, they shared it with others who grieved and handed it over to the Lord with the comfort that he was taken care of and happier than all of us. The memory of the loss should never be a crutch in life, or a reason not to live yours. Letting the grief or problems of your own or of other rule whether you get out of bed in the morning or not, go to work everyday or find work to help your own family home is the same as opening the front door and telling satin to come right on in, I'm all yours.
The best depression medicine in the word of our God, and the only consoler is in the arms or our God. God has suffered many losses and sacrifices but doesn't expect us to carry ours around, he didn't issues burden luggage for this flight he allows no carry ons. Only freedom in him and love of life for him.
So if your carrying around things you shouldn't be you better check them at the door before he comes around. The only crutches in life are for broken legs, theirs no one to blame for your attitude but you and figure it out before you run off the only people who really care about you, cause even they will stop trying to help you if you won't help yourself. Broken records get tossed.
To own something is to claim it as your own. First, however, you must make sure there is not already an owner. This is very important when it comes to material property, but even more important when you start to try and own non-material things such as issues, situations, problems, feelings, grieving, etc...
When someone you know or love has a problem, hurt, issue, bad feelings going on, it is not your responsibility to take these and carry them around as your own burdens. Only one has that right and he carries the owner of the burdens with him.
You run to the rescue to a loved one who has been hurt or lost something or someone, to bare their hurt with them or try to take it away, only to end up taking it on all yourself and you end up with more problems of your own while the owner is freed and moves on.
Let me tell you.... YOU CAN'T TAKE IT AWAY AND YOU CAN'T FIX IT!!!
One, it's not your job and two, it's not going to go away without the Lord and sometimes lots of time.
This is very dangerous and crushing to someone who sees them self as a "care giver" and can cause more damage to the person who "tried to help" then the person who had the loss or problem to begin with.
Face the fact also if it applies that it is o.k. if you weren't necessarily needed for that problem, and also look beyond your own family to be a proper care giver, it doesn't count if all you ever look after are husbands and children.
To be a "care giver" you have to be able to separate yourself when you are addressed with a problem that just isn't fixable but to just support and be there.
This unfortunately is the failure point that crushes the plans of the "care giver". Causing feelings of needlessness, rejection, leading to depression, stinky thinking, negative attitudes, and over compensation to try to do more for ones who don't necessarily need your services at the point in which the "care giver" needs a "give or help" fix.
A story:
A mother runs to the side of her daughter who has just become a widow, the mother wants so very badly to save her and take away her pain. Protect her from the hurt, to do what ever she needs for her. Yet in return the daughter is showing to be a strong person, raised and trained through life to be responsible and able to deal and cope with stressors that come her way. Although a very heart breaking situation the daughter barrels through like a champ. Grieving in her own way,(like everyone should), moving forward to respect the valor of her beloved and taking care of things the way he deserved, proud to have ever been married to such a fine man.
The daughter, surrounded by her mother and all the family she could ever need, she was able to relate to and become closer to her mother-in-law who not so long ago lost her love and now her son. They were two who could and should support each other merely due to common griefs.
Now, there leaves the daughters mother, still pushing through, wanting to take care of her and take away all the pain and hurt, not yet really dealing with the loss of a son-in-law she could have claimed as her own.
The good byes are said and tears are cried, now what?
The mother doing what I would do, moves in with the now single mom, moving their home closer to help the daughter with the baby and the homestead left a little emptier. All the while the mother is taking possession of all the grief, all the hurt and taking care of things. Instead of grieving and including herself in the group who was being taken care of and grieving together, she took ownership of the pain and sorrow leading her into a trap and a vicious cycle of highs and lows using this loss as a crutch in life to convince herself she can't do for herself, or creating ideas of negativity and rejection from others that are not true. Why? only she knows for sure, is it because she's led herself so far down this road that it's all she believes, or a cry for attention that just leads to more anger, frustration, hurt and rejected feelings when no one understands what's going on in her head.
The daughter has now moved forward, still grieving yet able to function and fulfill dreams and goals her husband would have been proud of. She's out blossoming from the love her husband gave her, giving and spreading his love for all people as far as she can.
This where the daughter has used her loss for the greater good, the mother burries herself so deep in a hole with all that she has taken on herself that when the daughter grows enough in strength to move out of the home and live close but not under the same roof, the mother doesn't know what to do but sit, ponder and stew. Dwelling deeper and deeper, creating thoughts of rejection, disappointment of others, failure, figuring the only thing left is being alone and scaring her self so much of things untrue. The next things to happen are deeper depressions, anxieties, new fears, paranoia, anger, frustration with everything normal, and the negativity starts owning her.
Dwelling daily on a loss that everyone around her has and is still dealing with and continuing to grieve, yet the difference is that the others did not let the grief and hurt take control of their lives, but celebrated the one lost just the way he would have wanted it. The others who lost did not own this grief as all their own, they shared it with others who grieved and handed it over to the Lord with the comfort that he was taken care of and happier than all of us. The memory of the loss should never be a crutch in life, or a reason not to live yours. Letting the grief or problems of your own or of other rule whether you get out of bed in the morning or not, go to work everyday or find work to help your own family home is the same as opening the front door and telling satin to come right on in, I'm all yours.
The best depression medicine in the word of our God, and the only consoler is in the arms or our God. God has suffered many losses and sacrifices but doesn't expect us to carry ours around, he didn't issues burden luggage for this flight he allows no carry ons. Only freedom in him and love of life for him.
So if your carrying around things you shouldn't be you better check them at the door before he comes around. The only crutches in life are for broken legs, theirs no one to blame for your attitude but you and figure it out before you run off the only people who really care about you, cause even they will stop trying to help you if you won't help yourself. Broken records get tossed.
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