Title: "How About You"
Artist: Staind
if someone else showed you the way
would you take the wheel and steer?
it hurts me that you're not ashamed
of what you're doing here
if they jumped off a bridge
would you meet them on the ground?
or would you try and claim
that it never made a sound
everyone plays the hand they're dealt
and learns to walk through life themselves
not everything in life is handed on a plate
when people think your words are true
it doesn't matter what you do
i sold my soul to get here
how 'bout you?
so you choose to force your hand
what a strange way to make friends
and you always change the rules
so the drama never ends
and you blindly go through life
judging only by its worth
just try not to forget
that the meek inherit earth
so please don't take offense
this is just a point of view
cuz i'm the only one who
will say these things to you
This song hits me in so many ways that i felt i needed to share, the song is sung by a band named Staind, a group who through appearance would not be a band that just anyone would listen to. Heavy rock comes from most of their workings, but i picked up their "14 Shades of Grey" album(which i'm sure is copyrighted so please respect) despite the parental advisories all over the cover I use them as an example to promote how the most unseeming or different of people can still teach a good message to those who are willing to listen.
This song opened a lot of images in my head about people that i know or are related to in someway, especially young people i know, that do not look at the world in a good way. This song teaches me to value things as they are and not what it's worth to me or what i would get out of it.
Not to follow crowds, to stand up and be my own person against all other opinions and odds, and not to take advantage of people or befriend them just to get something out of them.
WORK and work hard for what you want in life and hold true to your word. Have a conscience and feel bad for things that you do so you know when its wrong and you can make it right. So many in this world go through life doing tasks and deeds that hurt people or do not benefit anyone but themselves, and there is hardly any remorse and if there is any shown it's usually empty and fake.
Your not always going to get your way and you can't manipulate people to do so, it may work on smaller, weaker souls that you pass through this world but one of these days reality is going to hit and hit really hard and your going to go up against someone stronger and not manipulatable and your fantasy world is going to come crashing down all around you. Leaving you with a big mess of lies and manipulations to clean up and a lot of people very hurt and mad at you, then you'll really feel what it's like to be alone and unliked.
Most people manipulate reality as a defense mechanism against themselves, so that they don't have to be real and take the risk of learning what people really think of them. If they control people's actions then they can control there reactions, so you think.
Be real, if people don't like you for who you are then they don't need to be your friend.
Respect everything, do not take advantage of what you or anyone else has, it may not last.
Know people for who they are not who you want them to be. If you don't like who they are - don't judge them or try to change them, just call it a draw and just don't hang around them.
There are no short cuts and even though you might think you have found them, it just makes life harder for tomorrow by shortening the task for today.
Work, things are not be handed to you for the rest of your life.
Just be YOU...
and maybe pick up this album, there are other pretty good songs on there as well..
Friday, December 28, 2007
"The Bloodline of God"
I heard a song the other day the was about family history and bloodlines that weren't so great and usually fell to the way side and didn't follow the pathway of God. He was also singing about how it made him what he was and he basically blamed his family for everything wrong in his life.
We are not made by our bloodlines, family trees or even non family/blood acquaintances. We are what we make of ourselves and no one and nothing but yourself can be to blame for where you end up in this world. The song talked about how everything that happened to him was based on what his family did in the past, this can't be true because your family wasn't there when you stood there and did that stupid or just not too bright thing that got you into trouble.
When you have gotten in trouble with the law, or financially, or with personal/sex issues, was your dead beat dad standing behind you telling you to steal, or to speed in your car, or do those drugs or alcohol. When you spent all your paycheck on crap, or on your girlfriend, or the law issues was your mother who couldn't balance a check book to save her life or spent all the money your dad made before he made it tell you to forget the rent and buy that stereo or take your girl out to the most expensive place in town. Oh and here's a good one, i'm sure that your 16 year old sister who was knocked up at 14 was standing right there telling you it's o.k. have sex with that person and tie yourself down to children and or child support for 20 years before you've even finished high school.
So see, the decisions we make in our lives are ours. Not the ones our family made or someone up in the tree with no fork in it. The only blood line we follow is that of God and as far as I know that is about the best Bloodline to be connected with. Especially having a brother who gave his life so we might live. What better example of family does a person need.
Blood is fluid, it leaks out and makes a mess. What stands in time and in the record books of heaven are the tasks and deeds that we perform here on earth to please our one father and the only father we need to seek approval and respect from. Some of us may grow up with pretty good fathers and they try to teach good things but there is only one father that matters to make proud. God is the beginning and the end, he will guide us and teach us everything we need to know to make it to his home someday.
Don't blame him for your troubles either, he put you here and has given you everything you need to succeed, but he has this funny thing that people just don't get, is that he will give to you what you give away. If you don't give away then he just assumes you have everything you need and stops giving so much. So if you find your self in a time that it just seems that he's not helping you, then step back and see who you have helped lately. You might just see a whole lot of nothing which is then what your going to get. Up your ante by giving to others more than you have then just maybe you can get back more than you need.
Goals in life are set for a reason, by us not our pasts, to have something to look forward to, but they are not set in stone, so if what you think you wanted to do with your life isn't working out, then maybe you picked the wrong goal, try something else, we all have something in this world we are put here to do and sometimes its way more than one. Lives go through cycles and some cycles of life don't require the same goals.
Keep you eyes peeled and your mind open more, there are things out there for you to do that is good and enjoyable, and don't let your family history or even lack there of define who you are.
Blood is thicker than water but water is much more enjoyable to drink, family is who make of them and God's bloodline connects us all regardless of color, race, or country.
Be all you can be in me,
GOD
We are not made by our bloodlines, family trees or even non family/blood acquaintances. We are what we make of ourselves and no one and nothing but yourself can be to blame for where you end up in this world. The song talked about how everything that happened to him was based on what his family did in the past, this can't be true because your family wasn't there when you stood there and did that stupid or just not too bright thing that got you into trouble.
When you have gotten in trouble with the law, or financially, or with personal/sex issues, was your dead beat dad standing behind you telling you to steal, or to speed in your car, or do those drugs or alcohol. When you spent all your paycheck on crap, or on your girlfriend, or the law issues was your mother who couldn't balance a check book to save her life or spent all the money your dad made before he made it tell you to forget the rent and buy that stereo or take your girl out to the most expensive place in town. Oh and here's a good one, i'm sure that your 16 year old sister who was knocked up at 14 was standing right there telling you it's o.k. have sex with that person and tie yourself down to children and or child support for 20 years before you've even finished high school.
So see, the decisions we make in our lives are ours. Not the ones our family made or someone up in the tree with no fork in it. The only blood line we follow is that of God and as far as I know that is about the best Bloodline to be connected with. Especially having a brother who gave his life so we might live. What better example of family does a person need.
Blood is fluid, it leaks out and makes a mess. What stands in time and in the record books of heaven are the tasks and deeds that we perform here on earth to please our one father and the only father we need to seek approval and respect from. Some of us may grow up with pretty good fathers and they try to teach good things but there is only one father that matters to make proud. God is the beginning and the end, he will guide us and teach us everything we need to know to make it to his home someday.
Don't blame him for your troubles either, he put you here and has given you everything you need to succeed, but he has this funny thing that people just don't get, is that he will give to you what you give away. If you don't give away then he just assumes you have everything you need and stops giving so much. So if you find your self in a time that it just seems that he's not helping you, then step back and see who you have helped lately. You might just see a whole lot of nothing which is then what your going to get. Up your ante by giving to others more than you have then just maybe you can get back more than you need.
Goals in life are set for a reason, by us not our pasts, to have something to look forward to, but they are not set in stone, so if what you think you wanted to do with your life isn't working out, then maybe you picked the wrong goal, try something else, we all have something in this world we are put here to do and sometimes its way more than one. Lives go through cycles and some cycles of life don't require the same goals.
Keep you eyes peeled and your mind open more, there are things out there for you to do that is good and enjoyable, and don't let your family history or even lack there of define who you are.
Blood is thicker than water but water is much more enjoyable to drink, family is who make of them and God's bloodline connects us all regardless of color, race, or country.
Be all you can be in me,
GOD
Thursday, December 27, 2007
" What are you doing to your children??"
Why are you teaching incorrectly or not teaching at all your children things about God and Church?
Children learn from you and form their values and futures from what they are taught or not taught from their parents.
Children learn from you and form their values and futures from what they are taught or not taught from their parents.
"COME AS YOU ARE"
A song, a motto, a lesson in the bible. The Lord doesn't care about your back grounds, your clothes, your money situations, your roots or bloodlines as long as you love Him, worship Him, follow Him.
Religious backgrounds can show themselves in what we teach our children.
If you need a point to all this it could be to not teach our children to resent God or the church, because of what you forced on them as children. The goal here is to keep them connected to Him after you are not in control of their lives anymore.
A very sad thing was told to me one day. This lady who was talking to me, told how she forced her children to dress to the "nines" and go through a pomp routine every time they went to church. Her statement was that "we have the clothes and we are going to look good to go to church. We don't live in the slums and we are not going to dress as such." Well, she didn't but she didn't have it all either. To me right there cut off all listening to this bull and set in motion this blog and a better than thou attitude from her or more likely someone so lost in her faith that she needed to be and show more than she was to be able to worship the Lord.
If you go to church just to go or to show off, then don't go at all. The ones who are truly searching for his grace and love don't need false images to guide them and get them even more lost.
Same with our children, if you raise then up to put on false images for others and a holy place then your just sending them backwards down the path of grace. The pathway to grace is long and hard enough as it is, without teaching unnecessary ideas and false teachings.
In the end if going to church is made to be such a hassle for children, then they are surely not going to keep going when they leave home, and the ones who do will only carry on the wrong and false teachings that have been melded into their brains all their lives.
Stop the false images and teachings NOW!
Learn the truth and seek the Light, it will be the only way to guarantee the future of your children's connection with God.
Teach your children to dress properly(i.e.: pants that fit, shirts that don't reveal) everyday and they are all set for church.
A song, a motto, a lesson in the bible. The Lord doesn't care about your back grounds, your clothes, your money situations, your roots or bloodlines as long as you love Him, worship Him, follow Him.
Religious backgrounds can show themselves in what we teach our children.
If you need a point to all this it could be to not teach our children to resent God or the church, because of what you forced on them as children. The goal here is to keep them connected to Him after you are not in control of their lives anymore.
A very sad thing was told to me one day. This lady who was talking to me, told how she forced her children to dress to the "nines" and go through a pomp routine every time they went to church. Her statement was that "we have the clothes and we are going to look good to go to church. We don't live in the slums and we are not going to dress as such." Well, she didn't but she didn't have it all either. To me right there cut off all listening to this bull and set in motion this blog and a better than thou attitude from her or more likely someone so lost in her faith that she needed to be and show more than she was to be able to worship the Lord.
If you go to church just to go or to show off, then don't go at all. The ones who are truly searching for his grace and love don't need false images to guide them and get them even more lost.
Same with our children, if you raise then up to put on false images for others and a holy place then your just sending them backwards down the path of grace. The pathway to grace is long and hard enough as it is, without teaching unnecessary ideas and false teachings.
In the end if going to church is made to be such a hassle for children, then they are surely not going to keep going when they leave home, and the ones who do will only carry on the wrong and false teachings that have been melded into their brains all their lives.
Stop the false images and teachings NOW!
Learn the truth and seek the Light, it will be the only way to guarantee the future of your children's connection with God.
Teach your children to dress properly(i.e.: pants that fit, shirts that don't reveal) everyday and they are all set for church.
"Get the Message"
IF YOU'RE TRYING TO MAKE ANYONE HAPPY BEFORE GOD'S HAPPINESS, STOP AND START OVER AND RETHINK THAT STRATEGY.
Monday, December 10, 2007
"Count YOUR Blessings"
Being able to see what God has done for us is somewhat difficult for allot of people and not really because they aren't taking time, slowing to smell the roses but they are too busy worrying and looking at others and their blessing to keep eyes and focus on their own.
Focusing on the blessings that God has given to you and building your life on this to grow in abundance is worth far more than worrying about how someone else spends or treats the blessings God has given them.
Building up your own could and would open up an abundance of doors to help people who haven't been blessed or need to be. When you build up your blessing pool then you have placed yourself in a better position to do God's will when you allow all possible ways for you to help his children are open and available or doable.
Keeping up with the Jones' is a perfect example of this problem. What others have or how they treat or apply themselves is none of your concern and having or wanting what others have is a sure fire way to not have anything. What others have isn't usually what you need anyway.
Patience and giving more and wanting less, pays out way more and you end up with something out of it much better than you could have ever imagined.
Give when you don't have it, and you will. People have a lot of trouble tithing to the church these days because they think they can't afford to, well you can't afford not to. If you don't have a church to give to, find a legitimate charity or local organization to give to. To give to God in the bible demands a tenth of your earnings give as close as possible. Round up not down or you might as well not bother. I feel that if you give to somewhere, be it a church or the less fortunate, your giving to God as long as your helping the children of God and not yourself. He will take care of you if you take care of others first, and this does not include immediate family.
Being a care giver is defined by someone who cares for a child or an invalid, your independent adult children do not count in this. Being a giver doesn't count when the recipients are in the same house or on the same plot of land, they can take care of them selves.
To be a care giver or a giver of yourself, you must project these attributes on the helpless or the ones just needing a little step up. If your family can take care of them selves because you have raised them well and they are grown, you must realize this and let go, your job there is done.
Your gifts and generosities are needed elsewhere.
Count your own blessings not everyone else's, give till it hurts, and love what God has done and given you to be able to do his will.
GO DO IT!
Focusing on the blessings that God has given to you and building your life on this to grow in abundance is worth far more than worrying about how someone else spends or treats the blessings God has given them.
Building up your own could and would open up an abundance of doors to help people who haven't been blessed or need to be. When you build up your blessing pool then you have placed yourself in a better position to do God's will when you allow all possible ways for you to help his children are open and available or doable.
Keeping up with the Jones' is a perfect example of this problem. What others have or how they treat or apply themselves is none of your concern and having or wanting what others have is a sure fire way to not have anything. What others have isn't usually what you need anyway.
Patience and giving more and wanting less, pays out way more and you end up with something out of it much better than you could have ever imagined.
Give when you don't have it, and you will. People have a lot of trouble tithing to the church these days because they think they can't afford to, well you can't afford not to. If you don't have a church to give to, find a legitimate charity or local organization to give to. To give to God in the bible demands a tenth of your earnings give as close as possible. Round up not down or you might as well not bother. I feel that if you give to somewhere, be it a church or the less fortunate, your giving to God as long as your helping the children of God and not yourself. He will take care of you if you take care of others first, and this does not include immediate family.
Being a care giver is defined by someone who cares for a child or an invalid, your independent adult children do not count in this. Being a giver doesn't count when the recipients are in the same house or on the same plot of land, they can take care of them selves.
To be a care giver or a giver of yourself, you must project these attributes on the helpless or the ones just needing a little step up. If your family can take care of them selves because you have raised them well and they are grown, you must realize this and let go, your job there is done.
Your gifts and generosities are needed elsewhere.
Count your own blessings not everyone else's, give till it hurts, and love what God has done and given you to be able to do his will.
GO DO IT!
"Martyrdom"
Martyrdom,
A word I've used recently to describe someone close to me.
The definition of the root word "martyr" is: the willingness to suffer or die for a reason or cause. Martyrdom then is the act there of.
The question that raised in my mind when i looked this up was the "willingness" aspect. Martyrs who kill themselves for a cause, for example kamikaze pilots or suicide bombers are just lost souls who need way more guidance than what we could ever come close to giving them and they do without respect for themselves or others willingly do these acts to harm or kill.
Martyrs who chose not to go the death route, want to suffer or put themselves through such torment for something or reason are usually victims of their own unrealistic, destructive self and ideas, or not strong enough to stand alone against someone trying to destroy them for the their own cause and not the cause or respect for the sufferer(the one performing th task/s) or the ones who have to deal with or be around the sufferer.
My martyrdom issues and questions stem from people who play the martyr either for attention or because its all they allow themselves to know.
The one person in a group who has to be the heavy, the one out front, the blues man, the stick in the mud, causing discomfort and unhappiness to all around especially when in a group has gathered for a fun or joyous occasion.
Nothing makes this type of person happy when they are like this and it seems that they are not happy unless they are unhappy. No matter what anyone does to make things better or to cheer them up is not enough, cause then of course they get more attention when they are acting this way than they think they do when they are being civil and on the same keel as all around them.
Is this a conscious act or do they even know they do it due to life practices and or habits?
A person who stays in the negative of things and life are bound to have adverse affects from this after a certain length of time. Self depressions, negative/dark attitudes, harshness towards others, paranoia toward others and self, self destructive thinking are all link to why people lose loved ones and friends in their life to the point that no one wants to be around this type person.
No one in any right mind wants to be around a negative person or one who presents with any of these qualities, especially when they are happy and would like to truly enjoy it or spread it around. A martyr would not allow the happiness to be spread or would at least attempt to throw some kind of wrench in the mood.
A martyr can bust happy bubbles faster than anything and the bad thing is that they usually do not do it intentionally and are unaware they held the "pin" that spoiled the whole mood or event.
So what causes this type of person, life issues, habits, other people's influences, or self destruction. Probably a whole lot of all of it is the cause of these attitudes and personalities, but the key to it all though is that it's the fault of the person doing these things that they are not better people. Sure you may not have a choice in who you hang around with, live with or certain situations that happen, allot of things in life are not controlled by us, but the way we receive these situations and deal with them till they are gone IS our problem and responsibility.
there is no one to blame for the things about and in your life that you don't like or cause you to do things that aren't right. It's YOUR life not theirs and the only one thats going to make things the way you want them is God and YOU not anyone else.
If you don't like something CHANGE it, if you want something WORK for it, all things are possible with God and you can do all things through God and only God and yourself. He's not going to hand it to you and no one else will either, a nudge here and there, a hand here and there but YOU have to WORK to get done what needs to be done. Do it for yourself and only for yourself, no one else matters when it comes to being who YOU and God want you to be.
Stop sulking, stop depressing yourself and everyone around you and get off your butt and GO. Go do what God wants you to, not what your family wants you to, or what you think people want you to.
Stop using others, events or losses as your crutch to life. Live life as God and the ones who've gone on before want you to do, especially the ones who didn't get to live to fullness here on earth. They live where they are now, but God put us here to LIVE first.
GIVE, LOVE, LIVE
A word I've used recently to describe someone close to me.
The definition of the root word "martyr" is: the willingness to suffer or die for a reason or cause. Martyrdom then is the act there of.
The question that raised in my mind when i looked this up was the "willingness" aspect. Martyrs who kill themselves for a cause, for example kamikaze pilots or suicide bombers are just lost souls who need way more guidance than what we could ever come close to giving them and they do without respect for themselves or others willingly do these acts to harm or kill.
Martyrs who chose not to go the death route, want to suffer or put themselves through such torment for something or reason are usually victims of their own unrealistic, destructive self and ideas, or not strong enough to stand alone against someone trying to destroy them for the their own cause and not the cause or respect for the sufferer(the one performing th task/s) or the ones who have to deal with or be around the sufferer.
My martyrdom issues and questions stem from people who play the martyr either for attention or because its all they allow themselves to know.
The one person in a group who has to be the heavy, the one out front, the blues man, the stick in the mud, causing discomfort and unhappiness to all around especially when in a group has gathered for a fun or joyous occasion.
Nothing makes this type of person happy when they are like this and it seems that they are not happy unless they are unhappy. No matter what anyone does to make things better or to cheer them up is not enough, cause then of course they get more attention when they are acting this way than they think they do when they are being civil and on the same keel as all around them.
Is this a conscious act or do they even know they do it due to life practices and or habits?
A person who stays in the negative of things and life are bound to have adverse affects from this after a certain length of time. Self depressions, negative/dark attitudes, harshness towards others, paranoia toward others and self, self destructive thinking are all link to why people lose loved ones and friends in their life to the point that no one wants to be around this type person.
No one in any right mind wants to be around a negative person or one who presents with any of these qualities, especially when they are happy and would like to truly enjoy it or spread it around. A martyr would not allow the happiness to be spread or would at least attempt to throw some kind of wrench in the mood.
A martyr can bust happy bubbles faster than anything and the bad thing is that they usually do not do it intentionally and are unaware they held the "pin" that spoiled the whole mood or event.
So what causes this type of person, life issues, habits, other people's influences, or self destruction. Probably a whole lot of all of it is the cause of these attitudes and personalities, but the key to it all though is that it's the fault of the person doing these things that they are not better people. Sure you may not have a choice in who you hang around with, live with or certain situations that happen, allot of things in life are not controlled by us, but the way we receive these situations and deal with them till they are gone IS our problem and responsibility.
there is no one to blame for the things about and in your life that you don't like or cause you to do things that aren't right. It's YOUR life not theirs and the only one thats going to make things the way you want them is God and YOU not anyone else.
If you don't like something CHANGE it, if you want something WORK for it, all things are possible with God and you can do all things through God and only God and yourself. He's not going to hand it to you and no one else will either, a nudge here and there, a hand here and there but YOU have to WORK to get done what needs to be done. Do it for yourself and only for yourself, no one else matters when it comes to being who YOU and God want you to be.
Stop sulking, stop depressing yourself and everyone around you and get off your butt and GO. Go do what God wants you to, not what your family wants you to, or what you think people want you to.
Stop using others, events or losses as your crutch to life. Live life as God and the ones who've gone on before want you to do, especially the ones who didn't get to live to fullness here on earth. They live where they are now, but God put us here to LIVE first.
GIVE, LOVE, LIVE
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