"Martyrdom"

Martyrdom,

A word I've used recently to describe someone close to me.

The definition of the root word "martyr" is: the willingness to suffer or die for a reason or cause. Martyrdom then is the act there of.

The question that raised in my mind when i looked this up was the "willingness" aspect. Martyrs who kill themselves for a cause, for example kamikaze pilots or suicide bombers are just lost souls who need way more guidance than what we could ever come close to giving them and they do without respect for themselves or others willingly do these acts to harm or kill.

Martyrs who chose not to go the death route, want to suffer or put themselves through such torment for something or reason are usually victims of their own unrealistic, destructive self and ideas, or not strong enough to stand alone against someone trying to destroy them for the their own cause and not the cause or respect for the sufferer(the one performing th task/s) or the ones who have to deal with or be around the sufferer.

My martyrdom issues and questions stem from people who play the martyr either for attention or because its all they allow themselves to know.

The one person in a group who has to be the heavy, the one out front, the blues man, the stick in the mud, causing discomfort and unhappiness to all around especially when in a group has gathered for a fun or joyous occasion.

Nothing makes this type of person happy when they are like this and it seems that they are not happy unless they are unhappy. No matter what anyone does to make things better or to cheer them up is not enough, cause then of course they get more attention when they are acting this way than they think they do when they are being civil and on the same keel as all around them.

Is this a conscious act or do they even know they do it due to life practices and or habits?

A person who stays in the negative of things and life are bound to have adverse affects from this after a certain length of time. Self depressions, negative/dark attitudes, harshness towards others, paranoia toward others and self, self destructive thinking are all link to why people lose loved ones and friends in their life to the point that no one wants to be around this type person.
No one in any right mind wants to be around a negative person or one who presents with any of these qualities, especially when they are happy and would like to truly enjoy it or spread it around. A martyr would not allow the happiness to be spread or would at least attempt to throw some kind of wrench in the mood.

A martyr can bust happy bubbles faster than anything and the bad thing is that they usually do not do it intentionally and are unaware they held the "pin" that spoiled the whole mood or event.

So what causes this type of person, life issues, habits, other people's influences, or self destruction. Probably a whole lot of all of it is the cause of these attitudes and personalities, but the key to it all though is that it's the fault of the person doing these things that they are not better people. Sure you may not have a choice in who you hang around with, live with or certain situations that happen, allot of things in life are not controlled by us, but the way we receive these situations and deal with them till they are gone IS our problem and responsibility.

there is no one to blame for the things about and in your life that you don't like or cause you to do things that aren't right. It's YOUR life not theirs and the only one thats going to make things the way you want them is God and YOU not anyone else.

If you don't like something CHANGE it, if you want something WORK for it, all things are possible with God and you can do all things through God and only God and yourself. He's not going to hand it to you and no one else will either, a nudge here and there, a hand here and there but YOU have to WORK to get done what needs to be done. Do it for yourself and only for yourself, no one else matters when it comes to being who YOU and God want you to be.

Stop sulking, stop depressing yourself and everyone around you and get off your butt and GO. Go do what God wants you to, not what your family wants you to, or what you think people want you to.

Stop using others, events or losses as your crutch to life. Live life as God and the ones who've gone on before want you to do, especially the ones who didn't get to live to fullness here on earth. They live where they are now, but God put us here to LIVE first.

GIVE, LOVE, LIVE